I was reading a friend’s blog recently and was suprised to read a brutally honest confession of the lonliness of life. Along with this confession came a little outburst to God, a spill over of the heart’s desire. The exasperation (and desperation) that one must feel from years of waiting for “the right one to come” is quite unbearable I imgaine.
There were 2 things that really caught my attention:
1. How much I feel for this friend of mine
2. How different my theological view point is
I cannot deny the pastoral heart I have. Nothing moves me like people in need. I desire nothing more than to lead them to a place of God given rest and providence. I want to cook them a meal, spend time talking to them – finding out what they’re feeling, where they’re coming from, what I can do to help, what they can do to help themselves. Pray with them and for them and have the church rally behind them.
Another friend of mine called me recently and we spoke for about an hour, updating each other on what has been happening in our lives. Times have been hard for him and he is jumping hurdles left and right. The coming hurdle being the biggest and most ambitious, but most necessary. All I want to do is to run with him and bless him. I want to see the obstances smashed into pieces and him matured in Christ.
If it’s money you need, have mine. If it’s a place to stay, take my bed. If it’s just a pat on the back you need, I’ll throw in a hug with that.
I only wish my arms are bigger, my bank is deeper, my influence is wider and my relationship with God is stronger, that I might lead some to victory in (and with) Christ.
This would be the main reason why I am writing this blog entry: I cannot ignore the theological undercurrents behind that little outburst to God. Although I cannot say what the outburst is or even what it might be about, I can sufficiently say that it revealed a different theological viewpoint. One that I am immensely interested in – decision-making.
I am close to saying that my friend’s viewpoint is wrong, and that is what has caused her grief. But I cannot say for certain that one viewpoint is entirely right, therefore, her view cannot be entirely wrong. I would just say it is different.
These days, the decision to act upon God given wisdom is played down by the church. What is perpetuated these days is the phrase “wait on the Lord”. When God doesn’t answer in a timely fashion, we are liable to put the blame on Him, only to feel guilty afterward. Or when we do hear from God and the decision doesn’t turn out to be the best, we console ourselves saying “God knows best” or “His ways are higher than ours”. While that might be true is some circumstances, I cannot say it is true for all (or even most). There is another view.
Our lives are the cumulated result of a gajillion decisions made. It might be our decisions or our parents / spouses / friends decisions that have made our lives. Ultimately, no decision has more effect on our lives than the ones we make. Nothing can change our lives more than changing our decisions.
Now, God has given us wisdom already. And this wisdom is more far reaching and powerful than we imagine. Why? Because it is in the person of Jesus Christ and indwelling in us. If we are in Christ, we have wisdom. See 1 Corinthians 2:6-13. This wisdom holds not only everything we need for the next life, but everything we need for this life because this life is the next life. Eternity has already began.
When we begin to make decisions using Godly wisdom in confidence, we can no longer put the blame on God for wrong decisions or untimely answers. God still is sovereign and the best decision can still turn out to be the worst, and that still requires trust in God. It is not fool proof and we will still make mistakes. But we relinquish the right to put the blame on God. We then pick up the responsibility to grow in wisdom and maturity.
A word to singles next.