What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
There is something that I want and its beyond my control. I’ve been praying into it and working at it, but it hasn’t come to pass. At least not yet. Its times like these when you start questioning, “why haven’t I received what I’ve been praying for?” I know that God is all sovereign and He isn’t sadistic or bad (Luke 11:9-13). Thats when I start thinking about my motives behind asking.
We don’t often question ourselves and the motives behind our wants. Is the motive good or bad, right or wrong. James states for us what a wrong motive is: “you may spend what you get on your pleasures”. There are just so many things that we want in life and many of those bring us pleasure rather than bring God glory. Jesus was the opposite of this (John 8:29) – everything He did was for the glory of God.
Maybe its time to sit and have a genuine think: why am I asking for what I’m asking for?